Last Halloween, 30 friends and family members gathered to celebrate the 30th birthday of Jacob Priley, a government employee-turned-publicist who advocated for safer streets in the city he loved in both his professional and personal life. We ate tacos, made birthday cards, and dressed up in costumes. But this wasn’t a normal celebration. It was in a hospital conference room and the friend we were celebrating was unconscious upstairs, unaware of the significance of the date.